How Should You React When Your Child Slams Their Bedroom Door?

It is normal to have discussions or arguments with your child from time to time.

As they grow, your children become more independent, insightful, and responsive.

What they are going through at their age is most probably what you have also been through when you were at their age – studies, friends, and physical changes to their body.

When you find yourself in a heated discussion or fight with your child, it is very important to always think before you speak and act. Learn to be calm and evaluate the situation and listen to what your child has to say so that both of you can understand each other.

But what if the fight becomes worse and reaches a point where your child walks away from you angry?

How should you react when your child slams their bedroom door?

 

1) Stay calm and think

You will not be able to think clearly if you do not stay calm.

Let’s say the discussion blew up into a fight and your child decides to slam their bedroom door after he/she walks away from you in the middle or after the fight.

As the older one in the situation, you have to calm yourself before you do anything.

Once you are calm, you can think clearly of the right thing that you will do next.

 

2) Think twice or thrice before you act

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In this kind of situation, you can either let it go and let your child stay in their bedroom for a while to cool down the situation.

Or you can immediately follow your child and try to talk to them.

Think twice or thrice about which one of these two is your best option. After all, you are the one who knows your child, so you have to know which of these two can be best for the situation.

2a) If you let your child stay in their bedroom for a while to cool down the situation…

What you can do is evaluate what just happened.

Stay away from your child’s bedroom and go to another place in your house where you can relax and think.

Give it time so that both of you can calm down and think clearly about the situation.

After some time, try to check on your child and ask if he/she is okay.

You can also ask if you can come inside the bedroom to talk.

If your child says no, give him/her the space and time he/she needs.

If your child says yes, go inside the room and talk to them in a calm and peaceful manner.

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2b) If you immediately follow your child to their bedroom…

What you can do is ask your child nicely if you can go inside the room.

If your child says no, give him/her the space and time he/she needs.

If your child says yes, go inside the room and talk to them in a calm and peaceful manner.

 

3) Discuss the situation calmly

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You can go ahead and talk about the reason you and your child are fighting.

You can tell your child that you don’t want to fight anymore, and instead, you want to talk to them and listen to what they have to say.

After that, you can tell your child that slamming their bedroom door is not the best way to end or evade an argument.

You can say that the best way to settle a discussion or fight is to be calm, try to understand each other, and arrive at a compromise or win-win situation.

 

4) Make amends

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After your heart-to-heart talk, you can give your child a hug or any warm gesture or physical touch that you usually give your child.

Both of you can also apologize to each other, especially if both of you said or did something that would hurt each other’s feelings.

Make them feel that you are someone who cares about them, respects their point of view, and loves them unconditionally.

Through these steps, you can respond and react to your child in the best way when they slam their bedroom door during or after a fight.

Always remember that anything can be solved in a peaceful and calm manner between you and your child.

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